The official number of days left to book, plan, sort and write cheques is now at 148. Time is absolutely flying without any hint of slowing down.

My dress and Col’s suit are in the safe hands of the designers, being made to measure with a view for fittings in June and most other details are sorted.

We’ve opted for a civil ceremony and have been asked whether we’d write our own vows or not. ‘Not’ is Col’s initial response so we may just go with the simple option.

If you are having a civil ceremony in the UK in a register office or an approved premises then you may be allowed to include your own choice of vows in addition to the statutory words that legally bind you as husband and wife.

Although there is nothing in law to prevent you from including your own vows, be careful because some registrars have fixed views about what they will and will not permit.

If you are looking for an even more personalised wedding ceremony in a civil venue or even in a beautiful garden or marquee, then think about a Humanist wedding.

This is a non-denomination celebration of a couple's love for each other in which the bride and groom can write, or have influence over, every word of your ceremony.

But it is not a legally-binding ceremony so you will either need to have a separate register office wedding or, if you are marrying at a venue that is licensed for weddings, a registrar can perform the legal service for you at the same time.